Better After 50 ran a short & sweet article by after-50 dating expert Sandy Weiner about how to survive and thrive after a divorce. She offers 5 good tips; some about immediate decision-making, and some having to do with taking care of good old you. Here are the highlights:
Give Yourself Some TLC – Don’t just take time alone, do some really nice things for yourself – little gifts of pleasant experiences and fun.
About Dating – Don’t. As in just after divorce, it’s too soon. Yes, you may very well want to get back into the game, but the game will be there – always. Wait to jump back in until after you’ve had time to recover and rejuvenate.
Close That Door Good and Hard – Write a letter to your ex. Say in it everything you want to say – good, bad, sentimental, sad, hateful – whatever. Get it all out. Then, do NOT send it.
Make Esteem Building a High Priority – Affirmations and positive thinking are nice and can be surprisingly effective, but be even more deliberate and conscious about thinking the best of yourself, and enlist the help of friends too.
Move On – Here Sandy talks about getting back into dating, and that’s its own challenge with its own obvious rewards. But here’s where we would submit that moving on might be done in a different way and on a different level – instead of or along with the pursuit of a love relationship, and that’s moving in with another like-minded woman and sharing your home. The benefits, both emotional and financial, are tremendous. And you’ll enjoy instant companionship and fun. Very healthy and very healing.