I just received this touching letter from one of our Roommates4Boomers members, Beverly. So many of us have been through what she is going through. I asked Beverly if I could have permission to share her letter with everyone, and she graciously agreed. Read on…
My name is Beverly. First, let me say Thank You for bringing awareness to Boomers like myself. You have opened a whole world for those of us not knowing quite where to go from here.
I am 61 yrs old. Divorcing after 35 years. Finding myself after living in California for 32 years, in the vacation/retirement home(he wanted)…. by myself. This home is located in the San Juan Islands, in Washington State. I have been here almost 6 years. I live in Friday Harbor – one of the islands here. It is a beautiful place and I have embraced it for that… as I have begun my journey to heal amidst the isolation here and not knowing anyone. To come and go off island…one has to take a ferry. The logistics and cost and car problems… keep me from venturing out by myself.
So I do understand living solo after years of raising three children. Caring for homes…loving dogs and having friendships.
My world really did turn upside down. The crash of the economy in 2008/2009 affected so many of us. I was lucky enough to have this home… as we walked away from everything in California. HE walked away from it all. Even though I have worked on my inner self and will continue my personal growth & development as I transform my new life, the load feels so heavy. Depression does set in and going through this complicated divorce with division and trying now to sell my home… there are days one does wonder 😉 how to carry on.
I do not want to be a victim but a Victor. I am not looking for a pity party but strength from other women who I know understand. Finding your website gave me hope that a solution such as that may work for me. Maybe you have connections in my state of Washington. I will not continue to live on this island once my divorce finalizes. I have many financial decisions ahead of me. I am hoping to sell my home this upcoming spring summer season.
I know I have given you a lot to read and I thank you for your time – but most importantly – I thank you for the compassion and empathy behind the thought for Roommates4Boomers. We all really do need each other. I do not have family to rely on… so I must rely on me and maybe a little help from some new friends.