Living With Others Can Give You Time to Yourself

Dorothy SanderI love this quote from Dorothy Sanders’ post on her blog, Aging Abundantly. The post is called “Healing and Wholeness – the Benefits of Age.” Dorothy writes:

The gift of hindsight enables us to begin clearing away the clutter and debris we’ve dragged with us through the first half of our life.

As she lists those things that are bringing healing and wholeness to her life, these constants can be seen: stillness, simplicity, and time for thought. It strikes me that, although one might think that living with a roommate would in fact reduce one’s chance for stillness or simplicity, in fact sharing a home can actually bring all of those constants into your life. Just sharing chores, for one thing, can buy you blocks of time to yourself every day. You might meditate, choose the extra time to write, or find yourself able to schedule a yoga class for yourself. And ridding yourself of unnecessary belongings in order to move in with another can bring simplicity and clarity of thought.  And isn’t it true that sometimes the best moments of reflection have happened after you’ve had a compelling discussion with a friend? It really seems that living with a roommate can be a part of the healing and wholeness process for many of us as we grow older.

 

 

3 thoughts on “Living With Others Can Give You Time to Yourself

  • June 22, 2016 at 12:00 pm
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    I fully understand and agree that shared living space by its very nature does coexist and is compatible with time to oneself. And depending upon the circumstances in which two (or more) room mates come together, it can be especially healing for one or perhaps all. What it does indeed do for each is expand ones boundary of acceptance, sheds light on a more significant purpose, and substantiates the truth that no matter the age, there is always more to learn.
    I am speaking from personal experience. As someone who is predisposed for most of life to either elation or depression, my temporary room mates have been a divine blessing. I am moving on soon to my next adventure which I strive to embrace unencumbered by ‘fear’. As I take the steps to prepare, I reflect that my heart is bigger from love.

    Thank you God, Thank you Kathy (my new BFF), Thank you Craig, and to Kathy’s very LARGE Family…I am truly grateful and appreciative that you worked so hard to tolerate this period of time. Know that “your” Kathy to me is BIGGER than LIFE!!

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    • July 7, 2016 at 5:44 pm
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      Thank you for this lovely sentiment, Stephanie. Good luck with your next adventure!

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  • June 22, 2016 at 12:26 pm
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    I fully understand and agree that shared living space by its very nature does coexist and is compatible with time to oneself. And depending upon the circumstances in which two (or more) room mates come together, it can be especially healing for one or perhaps all. What it does indeed do for each is expand ones boundary of acceptance, sheds light on a more significant purpose, and substantiates the truth that no matter the age, there is always more to learn.

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