I love this quote from Dorothy Sanders’ post on her blog, Aging Abundantly. The post is called “Healing and Wholeness – the Benefits of Age.” Dorothy writes:
The gift of hindsight enables us to begin clearing away the clutter and debris we’ve dragged with us through the first half of our life.
As she lists those things that are bringing healing and wholeness to her life, these constants can be seen: stillness, simplicity, and time for thought. It strikes me that, although one might think that living with a roommate would in fact reduce one’s chance for stillness or simplicity, in fact sharing a home can actually bring all of those constants into your life. Just sharing chores, for one thing, can buy you blocks of time to yourself every day. You might meditate, choose the extra time to write, or find yourself able to schedule a yoga class for yourself. And ridding yourself of unnecessary belongings in order to move in with another can bring simplicity and clarity of thought. And isn’t it true that sometimes the best moments of reflection have happened after you’ve had a compelling discussion with a friend? It really seems that living with a roommate can be a part of the healing and wholeness process for many of us as we grow older.